Thursday, March 11, 2021

But I Want Him, Lord!


Just read an article, “7 Behaviors Women Mistakenly Believe Attract Men (but repel them instead.)”Why can’t women be women, men be men, and let God do the matchmaking?  

I think like my husband. He said if he could bottle the love he had for me and sell it, he would make a million dollars the first day! If I could bottle the formula of how our love happened for us, I could make a billion dollars. 

One key is a commitment to God and each other to be faithful in marriage and establish a Godly covenant!

We have gotten so self-sufficient and think we don’t need God! With that attitude, you wake up to broken relationships, families, deceptions, and betrayal!

God created us to worship Him, and our sufficiency is in Jesus! To have a happy life depends on our spiritual anchor in our Heavenly Father!

Be the best you can be and the authentic person God created you to be! There is only one unique you! Don’t be someone else!

My answer to my first question is because we don’t want to spend time alone with God and listen to his direction. We pray and ask for His perfect will and then tell Him what we want. Our prayer is like the young lad who prayed for God’s perfect mate but added, “I want her!” ‘Her’ might not be the perfect mate. What we think is our dream might become a nightmare!


Tuesday, March 9, 2021

Is Divorce in the Bible??

 Divorce! It is a broken covenant with God!

There have been so many articles and books written about divorce, you couldn’t count all of them! People who have never married wrote some books while others by persons who have never experienced divorce! 

I don't think you can really explain any event until you've experienced it! I can't tell you how to raise a child if I've never had a child. I might think I know what I would do, but until I've been there, how can I know? Some things you have to learn experientially.

In one scripture, God says, “I hate divorce!” We know divorce is not in God's perfect plan, but he knew the heart of a man and made provision to be okay in certain instances! He knew the emotional scars it would leave and wanted it avoided if at all possible! 

When I was fifteen, I met my husband! We discussed marriage, a trip to Florida for a honeymoon and he even purchased me an engagement ring but decided I was too young and he should wait until I was older before he proposed! After a quick relocation and a returned letter, we lost contact and married other people. We were both Christians but didn't have Jesus as the Lord of our life and consequently made bad choices for a mate! 

After learning of our reconnection and beautiful love story, I'm often asked, "don't you wish you could have married the love of your life first and not experienced terrible marriages?" It is a tough question after living thru it because the answer would be yes and no! Yes if we would have had the beautiful love for each other but no if we would not have experienced that love! My husband had a lot of love to give, but his first wife was not responsive to love! I think he would have loved me regardless, but our terrible marriages made us appreciate each other more! 

Wednesday, February 3, 2021

Protect what you hear, see and speak!

There's a little song we learn as a child that says, "Oh, be careful little ears what you hear, 0h be careful little eyes what you see and be careful little lips what you speak!"


I've heard for several years about the series 'House of Cards'. I had just watched The Crown and realized the ins and outs of politics that affected the monarchy, so I watched the House of Cards!  

After just a few episodes, I thought, "is that all our government is, sex, lies, and deception? Sadly, it is if you watch the news! Then I remembered the scripture in Mark 7:21 (KJV) "For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders." We must pray for our leaders!

While the series may be informative about our governments' behavior in governing, it is a little graphic in its portrayal! No wonder our young people betray each other in marriage! They see it as a way of life in our leaders!  

I don't think we should close our eyes to what is happening around us, but I also want to be true to my teaching as a child and protect what I hear, see and speak!

Ask God to direct your steps each day and then listen to His directions!




Saturday, January 30, 2021

Memories are Past Experiences!!

When I look back at memories, I count my blessings for the good and the unpleasant experiences! The bad ones made me grow in faith, and the good ones gave me hope for tomorrow! 

I am also amazed at how God preserved the little things like pictures, letters, and mementos that gave me joy and now provide wonderful memories to reflect! 

These have allowed me access to information and pictures to enhance my love story in my autobiography, AGAINST ALL ODDS, We Found the Perfect Love. When I discovered letters from the fifties to my mother written by my brothers and letters written from Odis to his mom when he was in the Army, I knew they were miracles. I have stumbled onto more information that I would never have known about my past without them! 

I am blessed to have these items available to write about my adventure!



Tuesday, January 12, 2021

Intro to On Loan From God For 24 Hours

 

Introduction

 Copyright ©2019 Suzie Tyler

 Everyone wants a telephone line to Heaven. If one were available, we could talk with our loved ones who have left this earth. I wanted 30 more minutes with the love of my life. A few nights ago, I dreamed that Odis was talking to a men’s group comparing the military soldier to that of the warrior as a Christian. I was in another part of the church, helping with the music, and when I finished, I walked down to where I knew he was speaking. He was in a green army uniform with lace-up boots. The meeting was over, and I grabbed hold of his arm and walked up a long concrete ramp holding on to him. The dream seemed very real to me. For a moment, I thought he must not have died, and I only imagined it. As we reached the top of the ramp, I woke up.”

His death was so sudden I always wished I could have had a few more hours with him or had a little warning. After that dream, thoughts ran through my mind of what I would do if I could have 24 hours more with him. As I birthed the story in my heart, I jumped up and ran to the computer and wrote as fast as I could because I did not want to leave out a thing. This short story is a result of that dream.

https://www.amazon.com/Loan-God-24-Hours-LOAN-Hours-ebook/dp/B07NGMDDR6/ref=nodl_  



  


Tuesday, January 5, 2021

The Great Pandemic

 Think about how shutdowns and masks have affected our lives!?!

First, with a mask, you can't see a person's face, so you won't be able to spread good cheer with a simple smile! It's difficult to breathe, so you stay home and don't socialize. With no interaction, you don't grow spiritually, intellectually, or emotionally! We do not encourage families to see each other and no hugging. Physiologically, we need to touch, to feel loved!  No family, no hugging, no emotions, no togetherness! Hmm, that sounds robotic to me!  Who is behind this?  Oh yes, we can blame it on the China virus, the politicians, but ultimately it comes from the one who wants to destroy our world and is the enemy of our soul!  

Guess what, we need to fight the one who is the root cause! Do it by making yourself strong in the Lord! Fill your heart and inner being with God's Word and His Love!  True joy and peace, as David tells us, is found in a relationship with God. Psalms 4:3.

Friday, January 1, 2021

I am too blessed to be depressed Too anointed to be disappointed


May 19, 1973, began a second chance love journey for Odis Tyler and me. Our earthly chapter as lovers closed unexpectedly on June 9, 2015. It was not a path I ever expected to take and was prepared to go together in the rapture with him. As I continue to follow God and trust Him to fulfill His Plan, I have focused on why God left me to carry on alone.

Writing my story has been therapy, and I see our journey as an example of our love for God and each other. My research has helped me understand how God orchestrated time and events to provide a perfect love as we went against all the crazy odds. The story reunited our former love and created a pathway that brought four children to the table and exposed them to a relationship of loving parents, a teaching of the love of God, and opportunities they wouldn’t have had otherwise. Ten months after we married, a little Suzie was born and was the biggest surprise of all but the most joyful. Each child was educated either formally or with life experiences. As a single working mother, I wasn’t comfortable stepping into the role of a stay-at-home mom to 3 stepsons. My love for Odis gave me the desire to accept that challenge. Odis’ goal was to love and take care of me and provide an abundant life for me as long as he lived. He provided a nice retirement for when he would no longer be here to take care of me.

I love spending time with my daughter, Diane, and granddaughter, Molly. In August, I will welcome my first great-granddaughter, Maddie, as Molly has her first child. (Yay, another pageant girl) I fly to New York for business and to see our daughter Karmyn. I enjoy visiting with my inherited boy’s families in Shreveport and Hot Springs and shopping for shoes. I stay involved in pageants judging and interview coaching. I love playing the piano and keeping up with friends on Facebook.

I recently took a trip back to Conroe, Texas, for the first time in 40 years. I visited our old house on Madeley Street, now a parking lot for the Catholic Church, and my old apartment at Caesar’s Palace. It looked the same except they had filled in the swimming pool. I visited the shopping center where JoAnn had her shop “What’s Happenin,” the old A/G church, and the old Weisinger Buckalew dealership, both on Frasier Street.

Progress continues, and the church now has a big new church on the interstate. W/B is now Buckalew Chevrolet and a state-of-the-art dealership on I-45. Conroe has grown from 12,000 to near 100,000 population. My friend and former co-worker Sandra Collette and I visited with our former boss, Don Buckalew, in his 80s and still working. Later, I saw my former pastor, Alvin Eaton, who just turned 90 and still working. Must be something in the water. Sandra and I don’t give our age.

While visiting with Buckalew, he said, “You girls could come back to work for me.” We looked at each other and then at him and said, “Uh, No. We are retired.”

Time has marched on for Conroe, as it did for Odis and me. In August 2017, Sandra had a stroke and died a few weeks later. She had the opportunity to read my book and was in awe at the love Odis had for me. She told me, “Sue, he really loved you. I’m so glad you found love.” I treasure my visit with her.

From the fantasy world of Elizabeth Taylor to my actual world of life with Odis Tyler, I have lived an incredible fairytale love story that most people only dream about.

Why God allowed me to have the life I lived, I don’t know, but I feel special. He gave me a beautiful love to experience, and I treasure the hundreds of love letters Odis left for me to remember his true, pure love!



Thursday, December 31, 2020

Texarkana Baby

Book Clip
From:  The Suzie Plan
Copyright ©2016 Suzie Tyler

Odis teased me that I was his ‘Texarkana Baby’ and his precious thing that had him twisted around his  little finger like a piece of string but ‘gave him lots of sugar’! don't know about the next line “If she hauled off and slapped me, I would never feel the sting cause she’s my Texarkana baby.”  I never tried it.   I never asked him if the diamond he was going to offer me was “with one installment pay”.  I can’t say I’m a ‘genuine’ Texarkana Baby because “My pappy came from Arkansas and my  maw from Louisiana.” But, I am a real “Texarkana Arkansas” native!  And after all, Texarkana is where I met the love of my life.  Playing a vital part in my love story made Lake Texarkana and the Texarkana Gazette a special place in my heart!

Texarkana Baby was recorded by Eddy Arnold and in 1949 was one of the first 45 RPM records issued by RCA Records.
“She’s my Texarkana baby do I love her Lowdy Law,
Her pappy came from Texas her maw from Arkansaw
I’m twisted round her finger like a little piece of string
And yet I’m satisfied because she’s such a precious thing
She gives me lots of sugar and she never spills a grain,
If she hauled off and slapped me I would never feel the sting, She’s my Texarkana Baby!
One night I went a callin’ on my pretty little maid,
I must admit to you I was a little bit afraid.
To offer her a diamond ring with one installment pay.
She’s got two eyes that twinkle like a good ol’ country star
She’s got a perfect figure that’ll stop you where you are,
Why every time I look at her I think of my guitar, She’s my Texarkana Baby!

After a fifteen year separation, God’s ink pen is rewriting the lives of a boy and a girl who are now adults.  He allowed them to miraculously find each other without personal computers, cell phones or a ‘Google’ app ….

Tuesday, December 29, 2020

Knowledge is power and Godly knowledge is powerful!

 If there was a way couples could figure out each other's personality before they married, there would be fewer divorces! 


My first husband had to have people around him to make him feel secure. Not just any people, but party people! 

I, on the other hand, was raised in the church and loved church people! Even though I had strayed from it in my teen years, as I got older I drew back to those friends as I realized my life priorities and reclaimed my heritage!  
 
Our marriage had two people who needed two types of people to fit our personalities, and they did not blend! His upbringing was not a teaching of commitment to marriage, mine was!  If we could have had this insight early in our relationship, we would have gone our separate ways before making a family! 

Not sure how we could implement this or if young people would accept it, but it could avoid a lot of heartache and broken families! 

One positive way is to be mature enough to know, really know the person you are marrying. There is a difference between love and lust! Some young couples get lucky, and it works, but too many times, it doesn't!  

After my divorce, I prayed for a Christian husband! It was my biggest priority. Not knowing that my first genuine love had been divorced for 3 years, I sought him out! Unusual events reunited us, and we had the same priorities and needed the same type of friendships  

After unfortunate marriages, our experiences had taught us to pray about our relationship. We knew we had an actual love for each other and not lust!

Knowledge is power and Godly knowledge is powerful!  
Read my story in AGAINST ALL ODDS, We Found The Perfect Love available Valentine Day 2020!

Miracle after Miracle!

 I have several friends experiencing the holidays alone because of divorce.  It is difficult, and having experienced both the worst. Let me encourage you, "there is life after divorce." The key is "trusting God!"


That is easy to say now that I'm on the other side, but walking through it was not!  It encourages me, though, that if He brought me through that, He could bring me through this! If He did it for me, He would do it for you! 


Miracle after Miracle!


Here is a clip from my book, and I hope it will encourage you to lean not to your own understanding but trust God in ALL things!  

"This is not the first time I have been alone. The first time was by choice. It was self-preservation. This time it was decided for me, and I wasn't ready!   I trust God's plan, and so happy that I was deeply loved for 42 plus years and secretly loved for an additional 15 years! The difference now is I have in my heart many, many memories, and a once in a lifetime love by the love of my life!   It gave me a second chance!!   I grabbed it, and it was special!

A few days ago, I told a friend that loss by divorce is more difficult than loss by death because in divorce; you are hurt, angry, confused, and insecure. My loss by death is filled with a heart full of memories of security and intimate love that was so special and so deep that I can live on it for the rest of my life.....  Oh, how I miss him, but I know that he loved me more than life, and no one can ever take that from me!

We don't always make great choices, but God uses them to bring us close to Him.  If Odis and I had married the first time, we might not have been as dedicated to God.  I loved Odis Tyler from the moment I laid eyes on him in 1958 when I was 15 years old.  The experiences we had during those intervening 15 years helped mold us and make us who we are!   I appreciated a Christian loving man I could trust, and he loved his Godly Proverb woman!  As I read the hundreds of letters and cards he sent me during our "miles apart courtship," I realize how hopelessly devoted and how deeply he loved and adored me, and I could have missed that.  He gave me love that most people only get to dream about, and it will last me a lifetime! 
 
I love him and miss him.  He loved me and took great care of me in life and in death!  I will have his love and God's love to sustain me until Jesus comes or death!  I wish everyone could experience the "Perfect Agape Love" he gave me! "

Saturday, November 14, 2020

God gives us talents

When I was born, God gave me an amazing ability (talent) to play the piano by ear.  My parents did not see the need to give me lessons at age 8 because I could play anything I wanted to and was playing in church at age 9.   I wanted to play things I had not heard so I searched for more ways to do that and started cultivating the talent that God had given me.  

Through the years, God has brought some amazing people into my life including Sharon Eaton Stevens who helped me with my ear training, and other teachers like Esther Mills Wood who taught me the theory of music and included my daughter, Karmyn Tyler.  One thing I have learned through my "years of experience" is that the "status quo"  does not satisfy talented people, and they are always searching for more that makes their outstanding talent greater.

Matthew 25:14-30

When God gives us talents, He expects, no He demands,  us to cultivate and polish that talent to achieve the final result.

Parable of the talent's summary is:  Those who bury it and pay no attention find its value diminishes the longer they ignore it. Even what little they have will be taken from them.

And so the principle is “Use it or Lose it”

My Mother’s Advice

 


My mother used to say,

"Never judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes"


If you have never gone through a divorce, been a stepmother, lost a child, lost a spouse, lost your job, lost a close pet, lost everything in a fire, been in a car accident, and had any host of other issues don't say "He/She should do this or that." You do not know what you would do in a situation if you've not walked there before, and even then, every case is different.


The next time you want to say, "If I was ......, I'd do ..... " Stop and keep quiet and don't show your ignorance.


You don't know what you would do until it happens to you. We should grow with every experience.

Monday, November 9, 2020

Where Is Love?


Natural births can be conceived in true love or a duty love, but God conceived us spiritually in Agape Love!  We need to go forth and act like the Love that conceived us spiritually!!


A child knows genuine love!  You may fool adults, but kids have a sixth sense and can recognize love!  

In my book AGAINST ALL ODDS, We Found The Perfect Love ©2020; I wrote about surface love, loving superficially or what you can do for me love, and Agape Love, a love that gives sacrificially wanting nothing in return!   

I married while still in high school, with a selfish love, and was a spoiled, self-centered, immature teen!  I can't blame my ex-husband 100% for the failure of our marriage! Well, maybe 90%. Just kidding.  My mother had a saying, "It takes two to make a marriage, and it takes two to break it!"  

I have an analytical brain and thru 5 years of research and looking back over my life; I have learned a lot about myself!  I really did not know about Agape love until I married my husband, Odis that I loved in high school! Thru a series of events, we became separated at 15 and 18 and did not rediscover that love until 15 years later!  

Then, at 30 snd 33, we had both experienced terrible marriages, and neither one had genuine love in them! We also had matured and life's experiences had taught us to appreciate love with a different view!  

Odis loved deep and when we found each other again, he gave me true Agape love like Jesus loves!  I don't think I fully recognized the depth of it until after he passed away and I re-read his love letters.  Reading them forty years before, I was in an emotionally distressed mental state as a 30-year-old, but they took on a different meaning at 70, after experiencing over 40-years of love with him!

I thank God that He sent me a man who loved me in the natural as God loved me in the spirit! Odis taught me the art of expressing love when I'm not sure I loved myself!  He gave me all his love, wanting nothing in return! 

When we dated, he told me "I don't want to marry you to take of my boys! I want to love you, protect you, and take care of you forever! All I want in return is your love and faithfulness!